When anxious or depressed, we may hope that others will change their behavior, so we'll feel better. 
This form of emotional dependence leaves us with less power over our inner life and moods.
Take back that power and increase emotional self-reliance through better self-care (exercise, breathing, yoga, nutrition, alone time, personal short and long-term goals, etc.).

3 Things You'd Like More of in Your Relationship

This is a version of an assignment I give to my couples and I'm thinking maybe you could try this at home without adult supervision:)
You and your partner take some time and write a list of 3 things you'd like more of or to improve about your relationship and then use this as the beginning of a dialogue.
Complaints are natural and can be used for enhancement, but when they're suppressed resentment and distant are soon to follow.

Mood Swings Got You Down (and Up Again)?

Try keeping a daily log for a week or two of the following items:

Mood on 1-10 scale.
Alcohol intake.
Caffeine intake.
Exercise duration and intensity.
Sleep quality and duration.
Nutrition: time of day and quality.
You're likely to see some patterns emerge, indicating changes you could make to decrease mood swing intensity.

Compensating to Restore and Maintain Balance

As nature tends to seek balance, so do we naturally work to maintain our psychological equilibrium. 
We attempt this through compensatory actions and often do so unconsciously or automatically.
Example: One who grows up in a disturbingly chaotic environment may be inclined to compensate and seek wellbeing by exerting similar amounts of control and order on their world. 
Example: One who grows up in neglect or deprivation, may seek to restore much needed balance through the acquisition of objects or attention.
Problems can result when these tendencies cross over into the realm of over-compensation, which in turn can lead to dysfunction.

Motivation

What would you be doing today if you were taking some of your own advice:-)?

Relationships thrive in healthy, stable environments.

Well, of course they do, but it's easy to lose sight of this common sense notion when caught up in the business of life.
I recommend a holistic approach with consideration given to:
sufficient sleep, good nutrition, regular exercise, limited alcohol consumption, regular quality time for the couple and the individuals, and a sustained spiritual, or philosophic practice.
Without regular attention to these items stress will overwhelm and possibly destabilize the relational system.
Some say that under stress, we regress:)

Relationship Needs.

Before you read this post, please note that I'm a passionate, motivated and idealistic man.
Still, after nearly 20 years of marriage and 16 years as a marriage counselor, I'm wondering how realistic it is for one to expect that all their relationship needs can be met by their spouse, or any one person.
With this in mind, one's left with the question of what constitutes "good enough".
That might sound like settling, though acceptance might be a more useful point from where we can focus on what we do have versus what we're missing.