Did you write them yourself or borrow them?
What were your hopes and dreams at the time?
What were your assumptions about marriage?
Are you living your marriage according to the vows you took?
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
The list of things my partner does that bug me.
It's not hard to identify what your partner does that gets on your nerves. Sometimes, we'll pull that list out and review it. How depressing! How disappointing!!
What's surprising is how many of the items on our list might also be on their list. (Yes, they've got one, too.)
While it may be tempting to focus on their flaws, it's unlikely that we'll change them, even if there's plenty of love to go around. That's work they'll have to look into.
Where we can make change is in ourselves. So, take out your list, have a frank talk with yourself and see what you can do to enhance your contribution to the relationship.
What's surprising is how many of the items on our list might also be on their list. (Yes, they've got one, too.)
While it may be tempting to focus on their flaws, it's unlikely that we'll change them, even if there's plenty of love to go around. That's work they'll have to look into.
Where we can make change is in ourselves. So, take out your list, have a frank talk with yourself and see what you can do to enhance your contribution to the relationship.
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