Dealing with infidelity.

A recurring cycle of lies and making up can break the strongest relationship.
One key element is that the wronged partner is humiliated even as they discover that their suspicions were correct.
This humiliation comes from powerful self-doubt, as they wonder how they "could have been so blind?"
This crisis of self produces a dilemma: "How can I ever trust my partner again, while being true to myself?"
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How long should you wait?

How long would you wait before deciding whether or not your partner was for sure the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with? One year, or two?
Well, if you're divorced with kids you should probably wait at least 6 to 12 months, or even more before having "sleepovers" with your new lover and your kids under the same roof.
The trauma of divorce is a big one for children involving big loss and big change.
You can bet that your kids will form a connection with your new partner and if that relationship fails, they are at risk for re-traumatization.
Don't risk it. Take your time. You'll be glad you put your kids first:)
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What's your salve of choice?

When you feel hurt, disappointed, sad, etc., do you go on a bit of a binge or a tear?
Of course, people use everything from food to compulsive exercise to self-soothe.
Dare, I say that this impulse may be a part of the human condition?
It's so hard to soothe ourselves from the inside out, rather from the outside in. This is to say that we're inclined to look outside ourselves for our solace, our comfort, rather than
within.
And there's nothing innately wrong with this tendency, except when it becomes self-destructive and lopsided and we neglect to tend to what brings us inner strength and balance.
What's your practice that can or does bring you, in the words of Kung Fu Panda, "inner peace"?

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Relationships go through periods of being neglected for the sake of kids and work and it's discouraging and sad when we realize how much distance there is.

Couples come to see me in the midst of such circumstances or even after having lived that way for years. My work is about helping them reconnect where they currently are as individuals and as a couple.

My Practice

I specialize in couples counseling; rebuilding trust after infidelity; sexual desire differences, and communication skill building. I also offer effective therapy for compulsive sexual behavior and anger management.
It's a big step to seek a counselor's help. I imagine you've exhausted other options, or you wouldn't be reading this. Let's use the crisis that's brought you here to rebuild trust and intimacy in your relationship.
Please take a moment to visit my web site and read more about my experience and the services I offer. Be sure to let me know if you have any questions.
My web site: www.resolutioncounseling.com