Cognitive Distortions (formally know as Thinking Errors).

One of my favorites...

Mental filtering: We focus our attention on details that support our assumptions and ignore additional facts that might put these assumptions into question.

In statistics: Confirmation bias.

Positive visualization: the behavioral you.

Here, I'm talking about creating a positive visualization of your actions in the course of a tough conversation.
If you're like a lot of people in a difficult conversation you might:

• interrupt, or talk over your partner.
• raise your voice, yell, or shout.
• turn away, or leave the room.
• play the blame game.
• become defensive.

When creating your own positive alternative for these behaviors you can write a list of more constructive, relationship enhancing behaviors:

• listening, validating, acknowledging.
• keeping your voice down.
• taking turns.

As with my other posts regarding positive visualizations, be sure to do your breathing as you visualize.

As always, I look forward to your questions on these topics.