The Biased Therapist

If I don't leave my personal bias at the office door, I'm doing my clients a disservice. I adopt their bias in that their goals essentially become mine as we collaborate. I attune to how they think and feel, what they value and where they've been. To this collegiality, I add my take on what will help them get from their A to their B; be it insight, emotional self-regulation, more meaning, more resolution, relational skills, etc. 

Are they worthy of your trust?

Be sure to listen carefully to your intuition. You have it for a reason and it's based on your experience and common sense.
Don't let fear of being on your own trump this and your better judgement.
While in the passion of a new love, we're more inclined to take risks and gloss over what our intellect tells us about a new partner.
Don't be your own worst enemy. Listen to your heart, but don't forget to listen your head.

Assumptions & the Intimacy Gap

When communication becomes sparse and incomplete, assumptions abound.
The very nature of this jumping to conclusions is that we tend to act as if our assumptions are true.
When negative, these conclusions are a poor substitute for direct communication and lead to an intimacy gap that's difficult to bridge.
Do yourself a favor, give your partner the benefit of the doubt and check your assumptions.  

"Keeping an Even Keel"

To keep calm and balanced while sailing through stormy, emotional seas a sturdy keel is essential.

Such a low center of gravity, or a centeredness tends to come from a strong spiritual or philosophical base.   

When feeling knocked about by the waves that life inevitably brings along, check your keel and shore it up for it will surely help keep your head above water even if you capsize.

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